Resolving Conflict in Relationships (Part 1)
In relationships, sometimes we feel that the other person is not only a problem but also a source of conflict. We have to be aware that there always have to be two people involved for there to be an unhappy or conflictive exchange. When we are in any conflict, it is difficult to see and understand the true causes and the real energy of the process of the conflict. ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ฌ, ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก ๐๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ค๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐.
โคIn the first place, it is important to recognize that your response in any situation of conflict is your contribution to the conflict. The process of responding to any person or situation is something that takes place inside you. Nothing can make you feel anything without your permission. If you have been in conflict with someone for a time, for sure, you create fear or anger towards them, thus expressing behaviors of resistance when you communicate or relate to them. The other person is not responsible for your emotions or for your behavior.
โคYour experience of the conflict and ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ค๐๐๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ. It begins with your perception of the other (how you see others). If you perceive them negatively you will think negatively; you will feel negatively and create a negative attitude; you will behave negatively, and so you will transmit negative energy. You donโt have to do it like that. Perception is a choice.
โคWhen there is a conflict there is mental and emotional pain, even physical. Who creates that pain? You! Who creates at least half of the conflict? You! Where do you dissolve it? In your consciousness โ inside you. Freeing yourself from the conflict is a matter of a decision. At any moment you can decide not to be in the conflict. One side has to dissolve their contribution to the conflict, even if it is temporary, for the process of resolution to be able to begin.
(Continues tomorrow...)
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