Foreword: In a world that often equates self-love with vanity or excessive pride, embracing genuine compassion for oneself is not merely an act of rebellion—it is the cornerstone of profound personal transformation. "Self-love" transcends affirmations or self-pampering; and it is a conscious choice of honoring self-worth, nurturing growth, and freeing yourself from self-pity, guilt & grief. When we cultivate self-love, we lay the foundation for self-transformation, from which healing, empowerment, and self-confidence can flourish.
This journey inward, though deeply personal, unlocks the courage to shed limiting beliefs, embrace vulnerability, and align with the true self. How essential self love is in no matter what we do in life. You will learn from this truly lifechanging article/post—understanding self-love, self-acceptance, and the process of self-transformation.
In this article, we explore how self-love acts as both the compass and catalyst for transformation, offering insights & practical suggestions to turn introspection into actionable change—because transforming your life begins with transforming how you see yourself.
Title: "𝘾𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜"
Subtitle:
𝚆𝚒𝚜𝚍𝚘𝚖 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚌𝚎 𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 & 𝚋𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚍𝚎𝚜𝚎𝚛𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝙶𝚘𝚍'𝚜 𝚐𝚒𝚏𝚝𝚜
{ A life-changing message }
Index
Why is 'self-acceptance' essential?
✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in March 2025. So please read the following in the same context.
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🌷Dear one, the question of having "self-love" and "self-acceptance" is 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 and is deeper than you think. The source of it is not external reasons or your past actions & choices, but the BEING that you are. YOU are the source of what you seek. We will explore this ahead>>
Remember:
"𝙂𝙤𝙙 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙞𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙚𝙭𝙞𝙨𝙩"
Does a parent wait for their child to do wonderful things, before they start loving? Or do they love their child right from the birth?—So you see then, what we understand as the 'highest love' or the 𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚊𝚕 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 is not reasoned or inducible, but 𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥!!
𝙈𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜: You do not love yourself 'because' you do something external (karma) that validates the love and self-respect—as this love is 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 (created/caused/given birth), but is 𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 (sourced from your existence as the soul).
𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹?
Answer: You cannot change what you do not 'accept' and 'understand'... Only when you 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 your mistakes, then 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 (acknowledge) them honestly, and then 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 the pattern—'how' & 'why' the mistake happened... can you CHANGE it and not repeat.
𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
Here is the 4-STEP process of self-transformation:
Step 1: 𝐎𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 (Identify the mistake)
Step 2: 𝐀𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 with total honesty
Step 3: 𝐔𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 the Patterns
Step 4: The thought of 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 (Determinism)
🍀When you take the first 3 steps, the fourth is simple. It is ONE thought away... The process of self-transformation is always ONE thought away. The thought of 'I WANT TO CHANGE THIS' comes naturally when you 'realise' that 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞 to reach where i wish to go.
𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲: If you have a smoking habit. You follow the first 3 steps and recognise how it is affecting your health... then realising that smoking is not helping me attain a 'healthy life'—you will instantly 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐠𝐨. Not because you suddenly stopped loving to smoke, but that 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.
🪷So you see... how essential "loving yourself" is... in the process of self-transformation, and indeed in doing anything worthwhile. 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦, in short term or long. You would not hurt another, nor put poison (smoke/alcohol) into your body; for you know of its consequence. You will not hurt another when you are surrounded by love... The root cause of all conflicts is "lack of love". Whether it is lacking love for the self, for your own family, country-people, or humanity in general. Only when you lack this love can you attack another, inviting a retaliation! But when you love yourself, you wont hit another with a brick, only inviting them to hit you back.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 "𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗗𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴"
As now you understand the meaning and the importance of 𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏-𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎, we come to your other point of '𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘪𝘧𝘵𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘥'.
🪻Dear soul... I can tell you of a 'million' reasons for why god loves you 𝕖𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕟𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 & 𝕕𝕖𝕖𝕡𝕝𝕪. You are judging yourself on a very very limited view—of this particular birth of yours, and only seeing the bad things/choices you made. But what about all those wonderful things you the soul have done in previous lives and this.
🌈I tell you this—we all have done more good than bad. And, 𝐧𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 (𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰). Remember this when you deal with any form of relationship. '𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲' 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗼𝗻 & '𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁' 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀.
➤𝘿𝙤𝙣'𝙩 𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙨𝙚 𝙅𝙪𝙙𝙜𝙚
You were not sent here to be judged and be found worthy or not. Always remember this. You were sent here because god wanted to give you the greatest gift called LIFE... there is no greater gift than 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 a life-experience of your choice. To be able 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 with others.
🌻God needs nothing more from you, but that 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧... Yet, only when you 'create' love for yourself, can you 'extend' that to others. Only when your own hands are full, can you feed another. And only when you are HAPPY yourself, can you spread JOY to others.
𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲?
Now that you understand all that i wanted you to, here is the way to create self-love. This method will work even when you are surrounded by the darkest of clouds. For this is the ray of light you need.
🌱There are only 2 ways to experience self-love, and in general, experiencing the divine self that you are:
ONE: "𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 (𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐮𝐭)"
TWO: "𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 (of your truth) constantly (Affirmations)"
Out of the two, we will see the better one:
'𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴' (𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝘂𝘁)
"𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧, 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴"
✶𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: This is very subtle but when you understand this, your life and perspective will change forever! 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞: We have explained this when i wrote about "the purpose of life"—We are here, 𝙩𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚-𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚. We are here to create & experience the 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦 & 𝐣𝐨𝐲 that we are! We can experience this inner-abundance, when we give it out.
🍇See >> When you give out vibrations of 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞, you first experience it. The more you express 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, the more you experience it. The more you share your wealth of 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐥𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞, the more you expand it. This is the reason "sharing" is a greater form of experiencing who you are... Because when you remind others of who they are, you no longer need to remind yourself. You will instally experience 'having' what you give out to others.
"What you express, you experience"
Therefore, dear one, in order to experience self-love, you first EXPRESS love to others. 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 those wounded relationships... Win back their hearts... Make up with old friends... 𝐁𝐞 𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐥𝐥 no matter what... Source this goodness from within, not just because others are good to you, but because you are expressing yourself.
Inspiring Quotes:
"𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙛𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙖𝙘𝙠 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛" (and vice-versa)
"𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨" ~ Gandhi
"𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙬𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚" ~ CWG (book 1)
"𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙙𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙬𝙚 𝙙𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛. 𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙬𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛" ~ CWG (book 1)
☝️These are not just wonderful words, but 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞'𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐬 that are meant to be adopted and followed.
Practical Suggestions
1. 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳
Cut yourself off from social media and from every negative program or movie that can take away love and peace of mind... This is very important in this process. Peace brings clarity.
2. 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
Fill yourself with the highest vibrations from god (the supreme soul, Shiv Baba) by simply remembrance through 'soul-consciousness'. Learn 𝐑𝐚𝐣𝐘𝐨𝐠 through our official guide.
3. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗱𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗠𝘂𝗿𝗹𝗶
Read or listen to the daily gyan murli that you can get from our websites, YouTube channel & mobile apps.
Audio murli page: https://www.shivbabas.org/murli-today
Murli website 1: https://babamurli.net
Murli website 2: https://madhubanmurli.org
🍁With this, we end this response. 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧 and again to absord all the 'wisdom' and 'empowerment' that it offers. Follow the 3 step practical advise as well... 𝐒𝐚𝐯𝐞 the link of this article/post to come back and be inspired.
✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"
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