Are you facing challenges in your marriage? Here is our spiritual insight on how a relationship should be, how to protect your value & dignity; and lastly--our guidance on 'keeping the marriage and healing the relationship' at all levels.
โคSelf-upliftment and empowerment begins by acknowledging your capabilities, no matter how small they may seem. Shift your focus toward solution rather than the obstacle, and reframe setbacks as "opportunities" for personal growth. Cultivate resilience by maintaining positive mindest, self-discipline, practicing self-care, and celebrating every step of progress. By approaching adversity with confidence, courage, and adaptability, we can transform difficulties into "stepping stones" toward greater strength and self-mastery.
Title: "๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ค๐ฌ๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ช๐ง๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ผ๐ข๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐พ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐๐จ"
Subtitle:
๐ถ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ '๐๐๐๐ ' ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ (๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐)
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in Nov 2024.
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๐ค๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐: ๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐จ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฎ๐ช๐ด๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ช๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ, ๐ฑ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ช๐ญ๐ญ ๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต (๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ง๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ข๐ค๐ฆ/๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐บ (๐ณ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ช๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ) ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐บ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ง๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ? ๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐จ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฃ๐บ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ช๐ณ ๐ฃ๐ข๐ฅ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ช๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฆ? ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ.
Response
Your question is very clear, as "how to strengthen myself in the presence of challenges" and your question is not "whether to even put yourself in the presence of those challenges"
๐ดBut let me first mention this and clarify your thinkingโA lot wrong has been done and endured in the world, in the name of ๐จ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐งโwhether an obligation at the level of a one-to-one relationship, family, village, culture, religion, or country. Whenever human beings have acted against their inner voice, went against their inner moral compass, and done things in the name of ๐ฐ๐ฃ๐ญ๐ช๐จ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏโthey have hurt another, or endured pain, or started a war. (History is the witness)
๐ชปIn order to keep a vow, ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ have done things that a ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ person would never. Just as thatโin order to keep ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐ง๐ ๐จ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐, and due to ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ or ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ relianceโpeople come and stay in 'bad marriages' that doesn't serve themself, nor their partner.
God Says:
"You have no obligation to your family, country, religion, or to the world. You are not to keep your promises, if doing so harms yourself or another. And you shall always have your share of bread, and your share of life"
๐You are not 'reliant' on any other being, for anything (even when you now think so). If you decide to 'leave' someone, ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐โif the ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ is right, and the manner of leaving is true to your being (and not running under negative emotions).
๐ฅ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฟ:
You are not to victimise yourself. Do not put yourself in a negative situation, and then regret the choice. Always ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐๐ฏ๐๐ง๐๐, and then 'avoid' getting into arguments. So learn the '๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐' and you will do good not only to yourself, but also relieve the other person from being hurt.
๐๐๐ฅ: Please visit, read & follow our beautiful guidance on ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ญ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ง๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฒ
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PART 2
๐๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ '๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด' ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ
If you seek to "stay" in such a relationshipโwith a good HOPE that this '๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ฅ' will be settled one day, and you both shall live in ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง๐ฒ... And also your ๐๐ ๐ง๐ & ๐ฃ๐๐ค๐ก๐๐๐ฅ for each other might grow, as you go (together) through this process of '๐๐๐๐๐๐๐' and '๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐'. Remember: God is with you in this decision. This is a ๐๐ฃ๐๐ง๐ and a ๐๐ ๐๐ช choice.
โ๏ธBut you are choosing the difficult way. Walking this path, you must ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฎ ๐๐ฌ๐๐ง๐, ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ช๐ก, ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉ in every ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ and ๐๐๐๐๐ of your life. You are connected to this divine platform (Samadhan), and so shall you receive beautiful insight & guidance whenever you may need. So ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐, in any sense.
๐For such a brave decision, you should be 'proud' of yourself, as i am now. All help shall be given, and believe itโthe key to this situation is very ๐๐๐๐๐๐. I can give you that key using ONE word.
It is "LOVE"
๐You are intending to ๐ฌ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ this karmic account, and ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ a deep sanskar in another soul. Only '๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐' is the energy that can make this possible. It is your ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ & ๐๐๐๐ that can HEAL this spiritual bond.
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๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐น๐ณ
Ask yourself the following questions and 'prepare' yourself from within:
โCan i forgive them immediately & unconditionally?
โCan i always think 'good' of them, and 'be fair' with them?
โCan i always show kindness and patience, no matter the situation?
โCan i never fail to see the 'spiritual purpose' of why things happen?
โCan i keep this relationship above my personal feelings, needs & ego?
โCan I express myself around them, completely?
โ๏ธIf the answer to ALL above 6 questions is YES, only then should you proceed ahead. And if you can do this, be ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ that the relationship will HEAL quickly and peacefully.
๐ฅ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฟ: LOVE is the only way. There is no other feeling, force, or way for this magic to happen. ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐. Only if you truly are 'in love' with the person, should you try to protect this marriage (not for any other reason)
๐As explained beforeโDo not try to stay & keep on just because you are ๐๐ข๐ง๐๐ง๐๐ข๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐๐ง๐ญ. That is not 'true love' and holding on to a person whom you do not truly love, will take away a large part of your soul, and repay you nothing but regret.
๐๐๐ฅ: As all human relationships are based and function around ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, it is so very important for us to first know WHAT TRUE LOVE IS. We have given beautiful explanation on the same on our post ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ง๐ฟ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ?
๐ทRead the above post, and see if your love is genuine. If you find it so, we welcome you to follow our detailed guidance on ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ป๐
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Please read both above posts one by one to get the complete guidance.
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Everything is said, explained and two links are given for further guidance... Please read this post again, if needed. Try and follow as per your exact situation. Visit ALL links provided in this message/posts and FOLLOW them as well. Remember: ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐ '๐๐๐ค๐๐ฌ๐ก' is a large part of this "healing process" in any relationship (this is included & explained in those 2 posts on 'healing karmic account')
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๐ต๐๐๐๐๐พ๐๐..
Oแ แOแชแชY SแดแแฏIแแด,
๐ธ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐พ๐๐๐ ๐ญ๐๐๐ ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ด๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ (SBSI)
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