How to recover from guilt? A wrong decision in managing relationship can lead to guilt. Every decision should be thus made with an understanding of its consequence. Here is email and we responded it with guidance.
Original Question
Hello madam,
My name is Vishal i'm 23 years doing my B-Tech from Mumbai.
i was in love with a girl who i knew from past 4 years.(Lets keep her name X),
The first two years of our relationship was not a very healthy one as there was no reciprocation from her side. I was really hurt as i really had feelings towards her where in she was not serious into me then, it was pretty much a name sake of relationship from her side where i had strong liking towards he.
Time passed she got another guy in her life and i was back with X. things went really good then both of us fell in LOVE with each other and things were just perfect but the guilt remained in me
1. for not letting X know about Y
2. playing with Y's feelings told her that i saw future with her made her come deep into me and left her once X came back into my life.
And as they say instincts never lie X always disliked Y she knew something was wrong with Y and their relationship was not a healthy one. I tried talking to X but i could not fix their relationship.
Our Email Response + Guidance
To: Unknown Soul
From: Shiv Baba Service, Prajapita BrahmaKumari Ishwariya Vishwa Vidhyalay (Godly Spiritual University)
(God's letter to You - keep it safe and refer anythime)
Such the email is, briefly - you made some decisions after which you yourself thoughts that those were inaccurate decisions and now you felt guilty.
You need to know only that good and bad karma are not decided by an individual. If you judge your own past decisions, how would you become stable enough for the present and future?
However what you did was not intentional. This itself should lighten your heart. Sin is only created when one does something wrongs with wrongs intentions. This is not what you did.
If you feel heavy in mind, then you should go and apologise the person/s for this. If you do this with clarity and good wishes, then the relationship which was mistakenly disturbed, can be healed. This way you both souls will come out of the bondage of Karmic account.
(Source: Law of Karma)
This is our advice. Actually, everyone gets a natural feeling of right and wrong when they first do something new. If they follow their inner voice, you will never feel guilty. That inner voice should guide you towards betterment in life.
In this age of body, the spiritual powers of soul are also at the peak. At this age, we have become understanding and ready to decide where we wish to direct our life. In today's time, very few are those who take the righteous path. That is - path towards welfare of the self and all others. Because there are many factors that stop you from doing what is right. Some major of them are - ego, attachment and selfish.
God is world benefactor. Liberator of all souls. Creator of heaven. There are 2 things all souls needs - love and respect.
If you give first respect and then love to anyone, they shall develop similar feelings for you. However, this all depends on many other factors and past life relationship those 2 or 3 souls had.
The play of karma is very very subtle to understand. But life at a bigger perspective is GREAT and full of opportunities. If one fails, gets another chance. You get unlimited chances. You can only fail when you decide to give up. God loves us unconditional and unlimited.
Conversations with God - Audiobook (to listen): https://soundcloud.com/brahmakumaris-bk/conversations-with-god-book-1-audiobook-part-1
You can easily decide - Loving human souls is worth or loving the God? Atleast we have decided. Firstly one should have love for the creator God, then for all the souls (our brothers) and then for Nature (which sustains us). Clear? Understand and imbibe this deeply.
Love is not a temporary feeling. Love is that feeling which should make you bigger, greater, better day by day. Not should it keep you in guilt. Love is in freedom, in attainments and love is in giving and also in sacrifice. This all are expressions for true love
True love is soul conscious. Body is our instrument to live this life. It is a temple and I the Soul is the deity. We are immortal. Body is mortal. Our relationship with the supreme soul is immortal. He remains always with us in the time of need.
God is our supreme father, the supreme soul. Now has God arrived. Wish to know him, experience him? Do visit below all useful links when get time.
~~~ Useful links ~~~
Our Relationship with God: https://www.brahma-kumaris.com/single-post/2019/01/14/Our-Relationship-with-God-the-Supreme-Soul
Law of Karma explained- https://bkarticles.blog/karma/
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namaste
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