Dealing with one-sided love feelings is a challenging and emotionally taxing experience. When you find yourself deeply infatuated with someone who doesn't reciprocate the same feelings, this imbalance can evoke feelings of sadness, frustration, and even self-doubt. Failed expectations and desires can lead to a heartbreak, which is often noticed especially in one-sided feelings. But even the 'healing' and coming out of this is easy, since there is only ONE person involved, and it is YOU. The healing is a realisation awayโthat i have learned from this experience and now happily release all my feelings. I carry no hurt or ill-wish for anyone, but only blessings.
This brief response was given to a person who was going through the same. We explore practical suggestions, emotional insights, and self-care process to help you attain clarity on your feelings and dealing with the complexities of one-sided love. The 3 main aspects beingโAcceptance, personal growth, and maintaining emotional well-being. We hope this post will help you in navigating these challenging emotions with resilience and compassion towards themselves.
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โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จย & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in Jan 2025.
โ ๐๐ฃ๐-๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ค๐ซ๐-๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐จ โ
Foreword: The following was written to a lady for her one-sided love experience. So please read in the same context. You may replace 'him' with 'her' if that makes it sound more relatable.
Response
What we are seeing here, is a one way love-relationship. And this is quite common. It is only that you have expressed it openly, something that many people experience secretly.
๐ทIt is great, the feeling of love... when it is genuine, unconditional, and selfless. If you keep such feelings for someone, it is also serving you, healing you from within... So see it as "a part of your own life-process"
The Perspective
Now, whether the other person (whom you love), agrees or notโis their 'choice'. You must respect that. Your feelings cannot be 'compelling' and you cannot press it on others. The moment you compel and press your feelings on him, the bond breaks, and the mutual respect fades. Then it is not love really, but attachment to self-will if you respect not the other person's will and view. In other words, it would be like loving yourself, through another (only seeing your own view & doing what you find right)
๐ผJust as you are free to love him, and to confess the sameโeven he is free to express his feelings. And practically too, his decision to not marry or involve in a relationship must have a reason. You should try and learn of that reason. Ask him, but do not intrude his privacy. If your relationship is meant to happen, it will... A patient approach is needed, not a forceful one!
Ahead: Once you see his 'point of viewโit would be all clear and much easier to move on... Of course, keep your feelings. Remain true to your inner-feelings. But also have respect for his.
โถMost Important: The love you have created should not be wasted... should be go fade... So why not spread it all over your life, in all your relationships. Let the water of 'love' nurture the plants of your garden, and blossom more flowers. Let this love reach all your family, friends and more... and your life become like a fragrant flower.
"๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ & ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ"
the love you have sent out to the universe, will come backโin a different form.
๐Let this be a smooth process... as we have guided today. Be Open to new relationships... And when you do, be honest about everything. "Speak to them openly of your past & present".
๐ธHonesty is the best policy indeed. When you are honest and patient (in any relationship), you avoid conflicts and 'strengthen' the bond.
Tip: We highly recommend you to read our beautiful post on What is True Love?
Practical Suggestions
The following are some practical steps you can consciously take to deal with your inner feelings and overcome from the situation:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Recognize and accept your emotions without judgment. It's okay to feel sadness, disappointment, or longing in one-sided love situations. This acceptance is the first and the most important step to healing.
Set Boundaries
Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Limit contact or interaction with the person if necessary & possible, to avoid going into the cycle again. You can give it a try and see if doing this helps you to attain emotional detachment. Tip: Read our post Overcoming Emotional Attachment (visit for guidance & helpful videos)
Focus on Self-Care
Prioritise activities that promote self-love and nurture your mental health. Engage in your hobbies, physical exercise, yoga, walking, or spend time with supportive friends and family members. Tip: Do read our special post on Self Love & Healing Hurt.
Shift Your Focus
Redirect your attention towards personal growth and goals. Be grounded to the 'real' world and keep busy in activities that enhance your skills, knowledge, and overall happiness independent of the relationship.
New Connections
Finally, the step that will complete the process is when you "open" yourself to meeting new people and forming meaningful relationships that align with your values and mutual affection. Keep yourself open to finding a two-sided relationship, where the other person reflect the same feelings as you. This way love can cherish. Tip: Read this articlefrom TinyBuddha: Finding real, lasting love.
By implementing these practical suggestions, you can navigate one-sided love feelings with resilience and compassion towards yourself, while respecting the other person... and thus allowing 'personal growth and emotional healing'.
Recommended post: Healing from a Breakup
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