Do you know a person (partner, sibling, child, friend) who needs help to overcome their addiction? Here is our complete guidance on how you can help them in a balanced way:
Introduction
Helping someone overcome alcohol addiction requires patience, understanding, and consistent support. Start by encouraging open and non-judgmental communication to help them 'feel at comfort' sharing their struggles. Offer emotional support by being present, celebrating small victories, and helping them stay motivated. Avoid enabling their behavior by setting clear boundaries, and remember to care for your own well-being during the process. Compassion and encouragement can make a significant difference in their journey to recovery & healing.
Title: "๐๐๐ก๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ค๐ข๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ"
Subtitle: ๐ฒ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ '๐๐๐๐๐' ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฐ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
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โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ, ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด (๐ง๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐บ/๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด). ๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ & ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด. "๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐ฃ๐"
The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhanย WhatsApp group in Nov 2024.
Index
โถ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ: We understand and feel compassion for your situation. But worry not now, for you are at God's home. You will find all help & guidance right here. Not only shall we guide you on this, but show you how you can be an 'angel' in your brother's life.
Note: The following guidance was written as a guidance for someone who contacted us regarding her brother's alcohol addiction. Our guidance is the SAME for any form of relationship you may share with the person needing help with addiction.
๐ฆ๐ง๐๐ฃ ๐ญ: ๐ฟ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ & ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ค๐ฌ๐๐ง
First and above allโin order to help another, you must 'detach' yourself from the situation, and fill yourself with the ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ฆ and ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ that is 'needed' to help someone suffering with addiction.
๐So, our first advise is: Remove yourself from the situation for a moment, and act as if you are ๐๐จ๐'๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฅ who is here only to help that soul overcome this habitโ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ. (Keep this thought very very clear in your mind whenever you go try to help him)
๐๐ ๐ฃ๐ข๐ช๐๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐๐๐
A large part of this "healing process" for your brother's soul... is healing & empowering yourself first, because you need to be healed from the past experiences before you may become a help. This healing process asks you to be ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ and ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐. So are you?
If you are... then here is a way๐
Try and wake up early in the morning (4am is best). As you wake up, the first thing you do is sit in silence, ๐๐ ๐๐ฆ๐ค ๐ช๐ ๐ฆ๐ฃ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ ๐ and start affirmations (Swaman Abhyas). Here is our ๐๐ณ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ with useful linksโค https://files.shivbabas.org/wp-content/uploads/Swaman-Abhyas-Guide.pdf
๐ถPlay this ๐๐๐๐๐ณ ๐ก๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ in your home, especially in the morning & evening before dinner time (this is natural vibration of 528Hz frequency that promotes healing)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7BHtlwUIEs
OR
get its ๐๐ฎ๐๐ข๐จ versionโค https://soundcloud.com/brahmakumaris-bk/528hz-for-positive-spiritual-transformation
๐ฆ๐ง๐๐ฃ ๐ฎ: ๐๐๐ก๐
As you detach and empower yourself, now it is time to 'talk' with your brother... Find the best time for this... find a quiet room. Again 'morning time' is best for this.
โฅExplain him how this 'alcohol addiction' is affecting his health, his relationships, and your family as whole.
โฅMake him remember the "good time" before he got this addiction started.
โฅLet him 're-experience' how better his life was before this.
๐๐ค๐ฉ๐: Approach with a 'detached' and 'compassionate' vision (be gentle, go slow, do not argue)
๐ฆ๐ง๐๐ฃ ๐ฏ: ๐๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ค๐๐๐จ๐จ
As you convince him to think about leaving this addiction... it is now time to show the way HOW this can be done.
๐ณThere are many good ways. Here are our suggestions:
๐ฆ๐๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ญ: "Online Group"
Connect him to ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ of people who are going through the same journey of overcoming their alcohol (or any kind of) addiction. This will 'empower' your brother in many ways, as he finds company of like-minded people which will keep him ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐.
๐ฆ๐๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ: "Therapy"
If possible for you, approach a Therapist or a Counselor who specializes in helping with addiction. (make this optional)
๐ฆ๐๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฏ: "Support"
"๐พ๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ ๐๐ช๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ค๐ง๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ค๐ฃ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐ข๐"
You see--mostly those who indulge in alcohol are ones who are unhappy with their life, relationship, and workplace; or are going through emotional issues; or are engaged in a bad company of friends. Therefore, it is vital for you to understand their perspective/situation in order to help them the right way.
๐ฟDo the following as a 'support' for them to bring this change:
โฅRemove all alcohol from your home.
โฅMake changes in their ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ ๐ (clean the bedroom nicely & create more 'open' space)
โฅOnly healthy, vegetarian food is cooked for the family. No outside food for 3 or 4 weeks.
โฅMake him 'feel included' (do not leave him alone, or treat him like a patient)
โฅBring ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ซ๐ฐ๐บ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ต๐ฐ๐จ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด (spend more time together. Eat at least 2 meals together as a family)
โฅTo make sure he stays willing for this journey of transformation, make sure he leaves his old lifestyle and company of friends.
โ๏ธAll above points are 'important' for the transformation to take place smoothly. Make sure you follow this as it is, and ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ during your brother's journey.
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๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐๐ฎ๐น ๐ฆ๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐
๐ทAs he becomes better, we invite you to bring him (and your whole family) to a ๐๐ซ๐๐ก๐ฆ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ ๐๐๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐. Find one nearby using our centre locator (International) or India centres
At the centre, he will get a ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ ๐๐ญ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ that will heal and empower the soul to start a new. Even that a BK brother or sister at the centre can help him further)
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โฑ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ข๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ โฑ
BK Shivani on 'Overcoming Addiction'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vy3_2RP3ZMM
BK Shivani on 'Helping someone with addiction'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGPjYrkMrAI
Sadguru on 'How to overcome addiction'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKwLz6aI3aU
Motivational Video by Sandeep Maheshwari on "quitting addiction"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ro83VdwiYiA
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โ ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ โ
This completes our guidance today. It is now all in your hands. You can be the "angel" your brother needs right now... Remember: Angels never cry, shout, become aggitated, or hopeless... ๐๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐๐จ๐, ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐, ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐, ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ฆ, ๐ฃ๐จ๐ฒ, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐.
๐With these words, we leave it on you for now. Remember "you are not alone" and this group is at your help, whenever you may need. Just ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐๐ง๐๐ค๐ and see how it not only help your brother, but also help yourself to grow as a human being.
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๐ต๐๐๐๐๐พ๐๐..
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