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๐ค๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป: From your insightful answers I read on the Samadhan group, I have understood that "one should stay away from negative places and toxic relationships". But this is not always possible. Shouldn's we instead learn to stay calm and composed even while staying in a negative place & try our best to save even a toxic relationship? Please clarify.
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If there is a situation or a challenge to crossโfirst see for the best option. See if it is possible to 'stay' in a negative situation, or, is it appropriate and reasonable for you to STAY in a difficult relationship. See if there is something for you to "learn" OR to help the other person in any way... The first tools are ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ & ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป using which any situation or person's behavior towards you CAN be changed.
๐ชปIf it seems too difficult or not possible or reasonable; one should prefer living in PEACE... and distance from a relationship that holds no hope. (Of courseโeveryone must judge themself if they can continue, help the other person, or if it is hopeful to bring a positive difference)
Do not force yourself to stay where your heart does not find home, for you are not obliged anyhow to transform or help tranform any person. Your "good wishes" "love" and "patience" are more than enough for the other person. Sometimes, you need to do nothing but keep patience. For ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ง๐๐จ๐ค๐ก๐ซ๐๐จ ๐๐ฉ๐จ๐๐ก๐, ๐๐ฃ ๐๐ฉ๐จ ๐ค๐ฌ๐ฃ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐๐๐จ๐จ. (Meaning: Every situation is resolved, and everything starts to make senseโwhen you allow time to pass, remain gentle and careful in your own choices and doings)
Remember: Every soul is a 'creator' of its own life. You need not to interfere deeply with anyone's role. Every soul is guided by the light of God.
Spiritual Insight
๐ณIt is not wise and not good for anyone to stay around toxic relationships... because by continuing to allow the other person to harm you, you not only harm yourself, but also them. Remember: "Even the abuser is abused, when their abuse is allowed to continue" (You do no good to your-self, or them, by allowing them to continue doing what they find okay.
Instead, make it clear what is not appropriate, show them how you wish to be treated, by being an example; and alert them if they cross the line. Do this with genuine care, and with strength behind your eyes, and they won't feel attacked, but rather moved, helped, and motivated.
When you separate yourself from the grasp of the situation, and then HEAL yourself... only then ๐๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง & ๐ก๐๐๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ญ๐จ๐จ; for a wounded soul can heal no-one. And to heal yourself, you must first give yourself the gift of PEACE... for ๐จ๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ & ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ง.
"๐๐ฐ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ณ๐บ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ด๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ"
if you can save a relationship ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ & ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ฒ >> and if the other person seems reasonable and willing >> then do it... And if not, give yourself & the other person the gift of PEACE and FREEDOM.
How To Act Wisely?
Definitely practise ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐. Do not react on everything. Slow down your senses, ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐จ ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ฅ๐ค... be ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต๐๐ณ๐๐น before speaking, and be ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ as you try to see another's ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ . Only by keeping "patience" we can ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ญ.
โ๏ธthis is our spiritual insight on the given situation, and our general insight on "handling difficult situation or people in your life"
~ Manager, Samadhan, SBSI
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