Guidance on Love & Marriage

Finding true love is a journey that many embark on, yet it often feels elusive and complex. Whether you are finding your true love for the first time, or seeking a deeper connection after past experiences, the path to genuine love can be both exciting and challenging.

This post is offers helpful insights, meaning of true love, and practical suggestions on observing the 'signs'. You will understand that by focusing on self-awareness, communication, and authenticity, we are better equipped to build a relationship that is fulfilling, lasting, and rooted in mutual respect and understanding. Let’s explore how we can open our heart to the possibility of true love.

Title: "𝙂𝙪𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙣 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 & 𝙈𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙚"

Subtitle:

𝙼𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚎𝚍 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚘𝚗 𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚏𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚎 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎, 𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗 𝚛𝚎𝚍 𝚏𝚕𝚊𝚐𝚜, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚌𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜

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✶𝗔𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗻: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘶𝘮 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 (𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺/𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴). 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘶𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴. "𝙎𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜"

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The following was written in response to a query we received on our Samadhan WhatsApp group in Jan 2025.

𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱

This is a subjective topic. We recommend you to read the following for the purpose of 'exploration' and to expand your understanding. Follow it as per your exact situation. Please note that the following was written in response to a lady's query about her relationship with a boy with whom she desires to marry. So please read the following in the same context.

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☘️Thanks for describing your situation clearly. This is not the first time someone has approached us for this situation. We have given guidance on similar matters time and time again.

Understanding 'Love'

🪻Love is such 'strong' feeling that when we are within the experience of love, we see nothing else. So it is rightly said: "𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 & 𝘸𝘢𝘳"

𝙒𝙃𝙔?

Because both 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 & 𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐝 are strongest of all human emotions. When we are covered by love or hatred/fear, we cannot think of anything else, we do not experience any other feeling. 𝐀𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 '𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞'. We no longer see the good and bad, and are ready to do what the emotion of 'love' or 'hatred' inspire or make us do.

🌻Therefore, it is utmost important to understand what TRUE LOVE is... and then you can judge with your own observsation and inner feeling, whether or not you both share true and deep love.

🪷I invite you to read our beautiful guiding post on 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞?

𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁

It was advised to the spiritual seeker Arjuna in the Bhagavad Gita: "𝘚𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘦". 𝐀𝐝𝐛𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬. There is nothing outside, but only 'seeking'. All the peace & love that we seek and search, 𝕚𝕤 𝕥𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕤𝕦𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕤𝕠𝕦𝕣𝕔𝕖𝕕 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟. "We are the source of all that we seek".

"𝙄𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙨𝙚𝙚𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙤𝙪𝙩𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙚, 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙩𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣"

🌼Why is this told to you now? So that knowing this—you prepare yourself rightly. Do not engage in a relationship to seek love and abundance, but 𝐝𝐨 𝐬𝐨 𝐭𝐨 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞. Remember: "𝙒𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙚 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙚." Share your 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦, your own wisdom expands. Share your 𝐣𝐨𝐲, you feel more joy. Share your 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, you are surrounded by more love.

🌸Therefore, 𝙨𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙛 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣. Love for life! And when you learn to SHARE the inner-abundance, all your relationships can be 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚎𝚍 and 𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚑𝚎𝚍.

➤Ultimately, the final purpose of all true love-relationships is "falling in love with yourself"... By falling in love with the 'virtues' and 'qualities' we see in another person, we ultimately learn 'self-love' (unconditional self-acceptance, faith, and respect for who you are, and for your contribution to the world). And this is our final purpose of coming here in this world. We are here to discover & experience WHO WE ARE.

Watch this beautiful documentary film WHO WE ARE (by Anthony Chene)

Seeing the Flags

You also asked whether how would I notice and learn of any 'red flags' regarding the person with whom you wish to marry. This is simpler than you think.

➤FIRST:

𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧-𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨.

🪴Call it the gut-feeling, the 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 or the 𝐬𝐢𝐱𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞—it never lie. Notice how you feel when you 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 about him, or when you are with him. Compare that feeling with how you feel when you are with your family or a beloved friend. See if you feel safe, loved, and in harmony.

➤SECOND:

𝙊𝙗𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙚.

🌱You won't need to fully rely on the inner feeling, as you can observe a few things outside... See how he behaves with everyone around him. Especially 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞𝐝 (a servant, beggar, worker, employee, waiter).

☘️A person can be judged better not by how they behave with their equals and superiors, but by how they treat the lesser previledged. Do they show 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 and 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭?

➤THIRD:

𝙁𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧 𝙫𝙞𝙧𝙩𝙪𝙚𝙨, 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙤𝙪𝙩𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙙𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚.

(with the SOUL, not with the BODY)

🌈For this, you would have to spend some quality time together. 𝐎𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐞𝐬, 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐬. Observe how he display his 𝚚𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚎𝚜, and whether he tries to hide his weaknesses. By this, you can know whether they are "honest" or not.

🌳For any form of relationship to flourish—𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐲, 𝐦𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 are most important roots. You should have no intention to hide anything or show yourself differently to what you truly are. So 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲, 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐲. Expect and encourage him for the same.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗛𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝘆?

As you said, your family is against this marriage at the moment. But the question of "how to convince them" comes only after you first learn whether you both are truly in love or not. Whether this relationship can work or not.

🍁Therefore, i recommend and highlight the above guidance for you again. Please follow the whole of that—do spend some quality time together, 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫 & 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐞 & 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬.

Once you are assured, we personally believe and reaffirm: "True love makes its own way"

Meaning: If your love is true, and you both are meant to be and stay together, a way will be created sooner or later. It is meant to be. This is how it works. And if you are not meant to be together, the universe will show you clear signs. So follow your sixth sense, and listen to your intuition.

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