"Dealing with Blindfaith in Family" "Blindfaith in Indian families" and "Learning to Love God instead of fearing"
โถ๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: The following was our response to Noopur (from India) who reached us in January 2023 via Samadhan service.
You have asked a question here. We would like to give a straight answer to that first, as BrahmaKumaris too neither believe or propogate such blindfaith.
๐ฟSee... there are many such beliefs in Indian culture. There are different beliefs in different parts of country. The reason why in some defined cultures many people refrain from celebration on the days of year on which something inauspicious happened, especially a death happened in family; is that they believe that celebration on those days means a disrespect to those who left body (died).
๐ปAll those blindfaiths are sourced from two things: "๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฌ๐ก๐๐๐๐" and "๐๐๐๐ง" >> if you carefully think, ignorance & fear are the sponsoring forces behind every blindfaith of world. And what causes fear? >> It is ignorance (๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐)
๐ทFear makes them believe and stay with any of such nonsense >> simply because they come to the point of sin >>
โถ๐ฃ๐ช๐ด๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ฎ๐๐ช๐ถ๐น๐ต๐ฎ >> it is followed widely that if you enter a temple, you must keep your footwear outside, you cannot show your back to the murty (idol) and you cannot reject the ๐๐ณ๐ข๐ด๐ข๐ฅ as that is God's blessings. On Saturday you cannot put oil or cut hair (day of Hanumaan) and you must make an offering to God and only then your wish is fulfilled... and there are many more such beliefs that are locally or generally practised in India... all this is sourced from ignorance and fear.
Knowing God, our all loving spiritual father would mean no fear, no rules to follow. And this will break-down all established religions, for all religions are sponsored by this same FEAR of God! The more you make people fear, the more they stick with a particular religion. ๐ฏ๐ฝ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐ช๐ฑ๐ธ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐น๐๐๐๐๐ถ๐๐น, ๐๐ฝ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐น๐ ๐ธ๐ธ๐๐ช๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐๐๐ธ๐.
๐Right... now coming to your question:
"To sustain this lifelong relationship is much more important than celebrating a festival which comes for 1 day in a year."
๐บWe suggest you to not take small things too high and keep life simple >> try to explain this wisdom to your husband >> do this lovingly and not with an intention to prove yourself right. Surely he would be influenced.
๐พThen leave it to his decision... You may discard the blindfaith, but no need to force anyone to do so. Let them have the wisdom we explained above and let them decide.
โถ๐๐๐๐๐ : Samadhan episode on ๐๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ต โค https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-7PDarZ6L8
Love God or Fear him? โค https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw-iiw6C1k0
๐ต๐๐๐๐๐พ๐๐๐...
On Godly Service,
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